When Cinderella Got it Wrong

I get asked a lot whether Not Cinderella stems from some childhood obsession with the story of Cinderella. It doesn’t. I was never overly intrigued by her. The story didn’t stand out anymore than other Disney versions of fairy tales I had heard. But, what I did notice was her mainstay popularity in our culture and elevation to a heroine.

Reconsidering Hell

HELL. As a child growing up there weren’t too many words that could incite so much fear into my little body. I had never seen the place before, but the grown-ups at church made sure I knew what it looked like. A burning lake of fire. Gnashing of teeth. Yelling. Torture. Thirst. Devil with a pitchfork…optional.

Confessions of a Cavewoman

Remember The Flinstones? That show was pretty dope, right? I mean, it was kind of my favorite show as a child; and I never really understood why. Wilma’s hair was kinda cute — but nope, that wasn’t it. And, though the fact that they never changed clothes mildly intrigued me, I can’t say that was what magnetically drew me to sit dangerously close to my family’s floor model television on Saturday mornings and pretend I was a member of this “modern Stone Age family”. I knew that something in this animated series spoke to me; and now nearly 30 years later, I finally get it … I’m totally a cavewoman!

An Open Letter to Men Who Love Sundresses

To: Every man who has ever referenced “sundress season” In a few short weeks summer will be ushered out of our presence with the arrival of fall. If you live in a place with seasons, with it will go warm and humid days, block parties, barbecues and more skin being shown off than covered up….

#ImWithHer

Deep down, everybody loves a bad girl. The rule breaker.  The girl of our worst nightmares and our most incredible fantasies. Bestselling books are entitled:  Bad Girls:  Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets, and How to be a Bad B$%#@.”   Relationship books tell us that to get the guy…

Not Cinderella Launch Party Photos

A little over three weeks ago Not Cinderella officially launched. The response thus far has been great and I look forward to the Un-Princess Movement growing with time. Blogs will post weekly (still playing with the perfect day of the week). If you ever have questions or are interested in contributing, email me at hey@notcinderella.com….

Jesus is Not Your Bae, Boo or Man.

Last week, as part of the spouse challenge, a woman named Teneka Griffin posted some pictures that were edited to make it appear as if she was is in a relationship with Jesus. She posted them with a long paragraph about her love for her man and although she never said his name, it was…

The Russian Roulette of Religion.

Choosing what to wear to church is like playing Russian roulette. It’s either hit or miss. Add to that being a female in leadership and you just upped the ante. Now you’re playing with a fully loaded clip. Don’t let it be a special Sunday with a female guest preacher. Boom. You’re dead and you’re…

Why I Ran.

Painful. Ugly. Guilt-Ridden. Depressing. And the best decision of my life.